Ok, let's dive into uncharted waters here. Well, at least for some. For those that are experts, hold on, you will get to share yours with us soon. But for the newbies here, let me first explain fetish in terms of sex. Simply put, it means getting sexually aroused about something that is not typically related to sex. And the list is endless. It can be feet, belly buttons, ears, shoes, piercings, tattoos, underwear, voyeurism (watching others), age play, gags, bondage, golden showers (yes, you guessed it, urine), and WAM/sploshing (getting covered in messy substances like food, slime, paint, whatever), diapers (wearing, changing, soiling…), ect. The list goes on and on. I think you get where we are going here. Some are more mainstream and others are a little more extreme, there's a deep rabbit hole here if you decide you want to dive in.
For all of you that immediately went to, no that's not my thing, let me bore you with some numbers. Recent polls suggest that 75% of people have at least one fetish. The numbers are higher in men. I daresay that just may mean that women have been reluctant to be honest given the taboo nature of discussing such fun. So what does this mean for you? Well it means there is a whole world you could possibly explore to liven things up in the bedroom. So next time, when your husband pops your big toe in his mouth as he is pushing your legs over your head, and you want to laugh, remember this might be his “thing”. Maybe, catch your breath instead of letting the giggle out. You really did just tickle his fancy.
I’m not going to go too deep into all the stats here, but the most popular kink, by far, is BDSM. This is roleplay at its best. Someone gets to play the dominant and someone the submissive. Remember when Fifty shades of Grey put BDSM in the spotlight and women everywhere were reading it? If you really think women aren’t into kink, I encourage you to think again. Back then, even my sweet 75 year old grandmother was reading it. She may have clutched her pearls a little, but she finished the trilogy, so what does that imply? I would say she rather liked it. Now, did she lay her old hubby out those nights? I'm not sure, but I would guess, had they been younger she would have.
I, for one, would love to hear what everyone is doing to make things spicier between the sheets. Please share your chartered waters and those you are hoping to explore with us below. All your tricks and tips are welcome.
Until Next Time,