Ok, so maybe gratitude is all the buzz. We just passed Thanksgiving and November when everyone was blowing up on social media about all the things they were grateful for. So I did a little digging and guess what? There is research to prove that gratitude will improve your intimate relationship. I guess we may have known this, but there are studies that prove it's legit. So, I thought I would share a few points to help. It's almost Christmas and in the spirit of giving, gratitude is going to be first on my list this year.
Gratitude, according to the Cambridge English Dictionary is a “strong feeling of appreciation”. Most of us are probably grateful for our relationships but do we show it? My husband pours my coffee to-go every morning as I race out the door for work. I am grateful. But how often do I tell him? I am not sure about that. Probably not as often as I should. According to research, it's not about saying thank you. It's about developing a way of life that shows appreciation. A little food for thought, at least for me.
A report in 2021 by Harvard Mental Health states ‘A study of couples found that individuals who took time to express gratitude for their partner not only felt more positive toward the other person but also felt more comfortable expressing concerns about their relationship’. Open communication is necessary when establishing healthy intimate relationships. Maybe gratitude is the foundation we need to have from the start.
So now that we know the key, how do we do it?
Center yourself. Mediate, walk, reflect; do the thing that helps you feel good. Get yourself in an optimistic headspace so you can be good with the one you love.
It starts with being thankful for what we have. The highlights, the memories, the good stuff. Reminisce on your good times together and all your blessings. The oxytocin that is released when we think of our happiest moments is great fuel for showing the person we love how much we appreciate them.
Make positive plans for the future. Do things that are enjoyable for you both. Be encouraging with each other as you plan. Good energy breeds good energy.
Tell each other. Express how much you value your partner to them and how meaningful their acts of kindness are to you. Don’t forget to do the acts of kindness. Back to that coffee pouring… it means more that I’m in a rush for work so he does it for me. Appreciate the gestures. He didn’t clean the bathroom the way you would, but he tried. That definitely counts. Maybe a love letter is in order. Valentine’s Day is just around the corner after all (Don’t worry we’ve got you covered at thebondedbox.com).
Hope this lands in your inbox just in time to lift your holiday spirit and help you give the gift of gratitude this year. Wishing you a wonderful holiday season.
Until Next Time,
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