Being in love is one of life’s best experiences. It's intoxicating to be so enamored with another. You think about your lover when you wake and before you go to sleep. You are tickled with butterflies with the sound of their voice. Their kiss is electric and the chemistry is so intense your body tingles as your two souls collide. Everything feels new and fresh and incredibly exciting. How wonderful it would be if this feeling lasted forever but, typical of all things, the novelty wears off and it is replaced with the comfort of familiarity. Over time, most people become conditioned to the good and the thrill becomes a little less thrilling. In relationships and especially marriages, it is not abnormal to fall in and out of love with your partner. Relationships are work and have seasons and this is the less celebrated side of connection. An elderly couple when asked how they had stayed married for 65 years responded with, “we never fell out of love at the same time”. There may be a lesson in this for all of us. The grass may start to look greener on the other side but really, the grass is greener where you water it.
So the question is: what’s in the water?
Communication? Empathy? Kindness? Quality time? Physical Connection?
What do you think is most important in maintaining a healthy relationship?
Share your secrets, successes and lessons to learn by, as we travel deeper into intimacy.