The Bonded Box was designed to foster intimacy but what does that really mean? For everyone and every relationship it is different. Poll your friends and you will see the answers are very individual. For some it's about sex, for others emotional connection. But to really explore intimacy you will have to self-reflect what makes you feel connected? What about your partner? And then talk about it together and really dive in.
The meaning of intimacy has changed for me over the years. When I was younger I would have told you it was long conversations over dinner with walks in the park and kissing under the street lights as the snow fell. Followed by nights of wild sex and mornings that followed by more of the same. And this version of intimacy had its time and place, but for me now in middle age I would say it's definitely different. There’s nothing wrong with this interpretation but it has a much deeper meaning for me now. Today, intimacy is a feeling that my partner sees me at my core. He knows my soul, and understands me on the deepest level. What does that look like? Sometimes not pretty, but his acceptance of me at worst while celebrating me at my best allows for a connection I have never known before and am grateful to experience. Intimacy today means cleaning the bathroom for me when I am sick and putting the kids to bed so I can have a minute to myself. It means having a quickie because well, we both have needs. It also means lunch dates and special moments after our children go to sleep, and him knowing exactly when I need him the most. I could go on and on and at some point probably will, but for now I leave you with….
What Does Intimacy Mean To You?
Until Next Time… Lyn